Do you feel the pressure to always be pretty?
Spoiler Alert: People are always nicer to me when I wear makeup. You think I don’t notice, but I do, peeps! (Maybe I even do the same to other people!) This didn’t seem like a big deal at first, it certainly seemed vain, but I didn’t know makeup could affect the way people saw my character and values.
A recent study concluded that women who wear makeup are considered more competent, trustworthy, and even make more money. So basically, women who don’t wear makeup are left to wonder.
Nowadays, because we’re so critical of how women look, girls who don’t wear makeup are often considered “brave and courageous” for not “conforming” to the social standards of female beauty.
Really? “Oh that Paryss she is a real hero for not wearing eyeliner! But that Loretha sure is insecure for wearing lip gloss!” It doesn’t make any sense at all. If women are rewarded for being done up, why are they still being labeled as having self-esteem issues? And if those girls who don’t want to wear makeup are seen as brave, why don’t we reward them with bigger paychecks? My head is spinning, too.
I thought we were passed this kind of thinking. After all, decades ago the Feminist Movement called to our attention: Why the hell are we girls painting our faces every day? No—why are we expected to? The “expected” part is the important part because it means that any girl who doesn’t wear makeup is allowed to be stigmatized, judged or excluded for choosing not to. I don’t want anyone forcing me into a box just because I happened to be born with lady parts—do you?
Makeup can just be for funsies!
Today, we gals aren’t (supposed to be) as concerned about how we’re expected to look. We’ve risen above doing the opposite of what “we are told” (i.e. some feminists would stop shaving their legs or wearing bras) just to make a statement against oppression. And some women and girls wear makeup and shave their legs because they actually like how they feel when they do—it’s not always for dudes! Whether you wear makeup or don’t, whether you dress revealing or modest, it really doesn’t matter! Women have brains and are capable of making decisions without it meaning they want male attention and if they do want it, so what? At least that’s the way things are supposed to be. . .
Society seems to have two strong opinions about women: We expect them to look a certain way (like model/actress/pop stars) and we reward them for it. But we are also taught to believe that anyone who cares about their looks is insecure, superficial, and weak! Yvonne Nelson (and actually, all female celebs) can be praised for looking like a babe (amongst other talents) and simultaneously be criticized for wanting to look like a babe! Too fat means she isn’t doing her job. Too thin means she must have a mental disorder.
Who cares if she is wearing makeup if she gets the job done? Makes me wonder; Does anyone care what men look like this much? So what do I do? Do I wear makeup and inadvertently uphold the shameful expectations our society has imposed on women—even though, heck, sometimes I just want to rock a bright lip color? Do I not wear makeup (which I get a lot of joy out of) just to protest those standards? I don’t know. What I do know is that Makeup should be a choice as meaningless as having chocolate or strawberry ice cream for dessert. There are so many more important issues women have to face because of ignorance: the struggle for abortion rights, rape, and sex trafficking. Sigh. People should be able to look however they want with the right sense of humor. It shouldn’t be an indicator of INSECURITY, it should be a sign of SELF-EXPRESSION.
Makeup your choice. Makeup your way. Makeup your deliberate expression of self.
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Stay Pretty always
The word “beauty” is the most overused, misunderstood, poorly defined word in the English language. What makes a woman beautiful? The Holy Grail of beauty has never been completely understood. The cliché, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” is incorrect in my opinion. Perception is the key. It is “perception of beauty” that is in the eye of the beholder. Each of us, however, has a different perception of beauty. We all have different tastes, likes and dislikes, and this affects our definition and perception of beauty with regard to the Africa woman. As a Makeover Artist and Consultant,Beauty and Fashion theraphist it is my duty to coach people about this perception of beauty in its wholesomeness because so many misconceptions exist.
We are all familiar with the “classic” physical features that are considered beautiful in our society. A pretty face, gorgeous eyes and a nice figure are examples often cited. However, it is my contention that each of us has a different perception of a pretty face, gorgeous eyes and a nice figure. It is that perception — believing that a blonde is prettier than a black hair, or blue eyes are prettier than green eyes, for instance — that causes confusion. If we cannot agree on what traits to define beauty, because each of us perceives beauty differently, then how can a woman or man appreciate beauty in its real sense.
Unfortunately, we rely on “beauty authorities,” such as Hollywood,Nollywood, fashion designers and style experts to define beauty for us. The standards and criteria of beauty set by our society have been manipulated and bastardized and are wrong, absurd and unrealistic. Our role models have become 20-something starlets and fashion models whose photographs have been carefully orchestrated, airbrushed, Photoshopped and drastically altered. In person, these people do not look like their photos! Thank God for beautiful women around us that makes the job easier E.g Onyeka Onwenu, Joke Sliva, Tara Durotoye, etc
So, how does the non-celebrity woman compete? She cannot! Women are unduly influenced into negative opinions about themselves and forced to chase an illusion. The deck is stacked totally against them. We must change our perception of beauty and choose realistic role models. We also must abandon the notion that youth is the only path towards beauty. WOMEN MUST EMBRACE THE FACT THAT TRUE BEAUTY DOES, AND MUST, TRANSCEND THE DECADES AS WE AGE. We are all familiar with gorgeous women in every decade of life. If we must use celebrities as examples, there are women such as Joke Silva, Onyeka Onwenu, Late Pst Bimbo odukoya, Tara Durotoye, Ofodile Chioma, etc. We must change these perceptions, attitudes and behavior to make it better for the next generation. We must educate our children to recognize that physical characteristics alone do not make a woman beautiful. We must stop sending the wrong, unhealthy, superficial message to our daughters and granddaughters about the definition of beauty. It would help to choose role models who make sense: smart, vivacious, confident women, representing every decade of life.
It is my assertion that each woman has a Beauty Quotient. This quotient is made up of three distinct categories: Physical Health, Psychological Health and Personal Appearance:
1)Physical Health; consists of corporeal characteristics that define a woman’s beauty, and trust me — each and every woman has physical characteristics that are truly beautiful. A woman’s face or body can be structurally imperfect, but still exquisite.
2)Psychological Health; involves one’s personality, intelligence, sensitivity and warmth, sense of humor, attitude and overall level of confidence.
3)Personal Appearance; includes your beauty routine. This involves habits regarding skin-care regimen, hair and makeup routines, wardrobe, posture and style.
It is the combination of physical and mental elements from these three categories that define a woman’s beauty. A woman may raise her Beauty Quotient significantly by simply tweaking various elements within these categories.
N:B- A COMBINATION OF INTANGIBlES CAN MAKE A WOMAN BEAUTIFUL.
My quest is about convincing women to recognize their inner and outer beauty by changing their attitude and being able to take an honest, positive look at themselves. I would like them to look in the mirror and see the glass half full instead of half empty: #TheGodInTheMirror by Mr. Tylor. It is OK to look like yourself and not someone else. My recommendation is that women identify and embrace those attributes that make them beautiful, and then learn to accentuate them. Learn to celebrate your best features and set realistic, achievable goals regarding your own beauty.
We, as a society, must change the rules and allow a woman’s beauty to evolve with her as she ages to suit her current stage of life. Age with dignity, while still looking your best and, more importantly, still looking like you. “It is my opinion that a combination of physical and mental traits truly makes a woman beautiful. So much of a woman’s beauty is under her direct control”. Learn to take control!
Finally,you don’t love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her”
Stay cute! *Hugs*
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